Me, Myself, and I

1 Feb

When you think about relationships, what comes to mind? Most likely,  it’s your relationship with your significant other or your besties. However, you are forgetting about the most important relationship … YOURSELF! With chaos of everyday life, you may find yourself having a hard time dedicating time to check in on how you are doing, but it is actually VERY important to do frequently. I firmly believe that in order to have a healthy relationship with another person, you have to have a healthy relationship with yourself. With that in mind, I have put together a list of things I try to do in order to maintain a relationship with myself.

Alone Time
This one is the biggest struggle for me personally because I find myself constantly surrounded by people. From my family, significant other, and even social media, my attention is always divided and focused on others. Of course this is not a bad thing, but alone time is crucial in order to be healthy. Take time to step back from the chaos of school and friend/family drama. Be alone for a bit to check in on your stress levels and how you feel when you are just by yourself. Alone time is the best to destress and to make sure you are happy with what you are doing with your life as well as who you are spending your time with. It may surprise you to find how much others really influence your life and the decisions you are making. Always check in with yourself when you get the chance.

Treat Yo’self
You may find yourself doing things that others want to do rather than what you prefer to do. I know I fall into this category sometimes! I always try to put others’ wants/needs before my own, but it is very important to take time and participate in activities you enjoy doing. I know ‘treat yo’self’ is usually associated with spending a lavish amount of money, but this isn’t necessary in order to have fun. Take a class at the Rec you’ve always wanted to try, take a walk, or just window shop. There are so many activities you can do without having to break the bank. I tried to do something for myself every day for a month and it actually brightened my mood a lot. Taking a little time out of your day to do something for yourself is very necessary, especially when you are busy!!

Health & Fitness
Another thing that is important to have in a healthy relationship with yourself is taking care of your body. First, start with simple things like integrating more veggies in your diet and start drinking water. Even though it’s a little chilly outside, you still need to be drinking an appropriate amount of water. You are in Tucson, so this is VITAL! This is not only good for your digestive system, but integrating these two things will help with your energy levels and skin. You can also start mixing in a little fitness into your normal routine. Whatever your fitness level is, there are ways that you can be active without hurting yourself. Start walking or go to the gym a few times a week. Little things like this will add up to a healthier you. I believe fitness and health is very important in order to keep you confident and stress-free.

Recognize Your Strengths
I cannot stress this enough! As a society, we always feel like we need to be humble all of the time, but you need to recognize how amazing you are!!!! Everyone on this planet has great strengths that set them apart from everyone else, so embrace yours. There is nothing bad about giving yourself credit on the things you are great at. Whether you’re great at making new friends, an amazing guitarist, or an incredible organizer, be proud of who you are and what your strengths are.

Forgive Yourself
Always remember you are human and you are going to make mistakes in college and in the future, but that’s not bad. Life is a learning experience and no one is perfect. It is very important that in your life, if you do make a mistake, forgive yourself, learn from it, and keep moving forward!

Don’t Put Too Much Pressure on Yourself
I guess this one kind of goes with forgiving yourself, but this is just as important. As you are at the UA always try to do your best, but if you fall short of what you expected, it’s okay. You are a freshman in college (which is incredible in itself) and you are still learning the ropes. You can’t know everything!! Along with this, deciding your major and future career takes a lot of time, so don’t get upset with yourself if you don’t know all of the answers yet. Always do your best, but never put too much pressure on yourself to be perfect. Set realistic goals.

As you move forward in your college career keep in mind that you need to check in on yourself in order to be successful. There is nothing wrong with telling the people in your life that you need to spend time alone to do the things you want to do as well as being confident in what you are doing every day. Try your hardest to keep a good relationship with inner and outer self. Self-care is always necessary especially if you are going through stress!

Take Care,
Courtney 🙂


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